from Second Firsts Today...

Second Firsts
"how would I know when I Re-Enter my life and I am on a different path that will lead me to a new beginning?"

I respond with "where is the wounded part of you residing?"

Most people look at me with confusion at first. And I am sure you are too.

So keep on reading and you just might be able to take a step ahead of the wounded part of you!

It is so important to go through a certain process that I have used many times.

I call this process The Bridge.

If you could listen in to my coaching sessions you will often hear me say ...

"the day you experienced your loss, you also lost yourself, that person is no longer living."

And I pause, to let my clients take this insight and truly understand what it means.

Most of the times there are many tears, and very often it is very hard to let go of the part of you who got you through so much.

It is almost abandoning your best friend who has been there to wipe your tears.

It takes guts and strength to utter these words to my clients but I have seen such amazing breakthroughs.

The moment we realize that we keep looking for something that will never come back to us, we allow ourselves to stop searching and find peace.

But letting that part of us go, is not easy.

However in order to move forward and re-enter life with new eyes and a new belief system we need to give birth to the voice that is waiting to be heard.

The challenge here is that the part of you that went through the devastating loss survived with a lot of wounds.

These wounds are driving your thoughts and your feelings.

They are telling you that you are hurting and that you are no longer able to do all the things you planned on doing.

I am here to tell you that the wounded part of you is not the whole you.

There is a new you that is waiting to emerge but it can't until the wounded part steps away.

I created the "The Bridge Process" to connect the wounded self with the new self that is emerging.

The bridge can only be seen when you are able to walk away from the wounded self.

There are a couple of important words you need to utter to the part of you that is in pain just until you can hear the new self emerge.

This may sound a little harsh and rude, but the wounded self is standing in front of the door to your Second Firsts and won't let you go through.

You can't even see the door because of all the pain and sorrow.

What is it that you need to say to the wounded self to let you through and find the door to your next chapter?